Ejaculate Responsibly

1. Men are 50 times more fertile than women.
2. Sperm live for up to 5 days.
3. Women’s fertility is unpredictable.
4. Ovulation is involuntary, ejaculation is not.
5. Birth control for women is hard to access and hard to use.
6. Birth control for men is easy to access and easy to use.
7. Society clings to the idea that men hate condoms.
8. Vasectomies are less risky than tubal ligations.
9. We expect women to do the work of pregnancy prevention.
10. We don’t mind if women suffer, as long as it makes things easier for men.
11. Society teaches that the man’s pleasure is the purpose and priority of sex.
12. Women can be impregnated without experiencing pleasure.
13. Men cause all unwanted pregnancies.
14. We expect women to be responsible for their own bodies AND for men’s bodies.
15. We need to shift our focus to men.
16. Holding men accountable for their actions does not make women victims.
17. The uneven power dynamic between men and women is real and can turn violent quickly.
18. A woman can’t walk out on a pregnancy.
19. We’re not honest about pregnancy and childbirth.
20. The realities and burdens of parenting are unfathomable.
21. Pregnancy should not be a punishment.
22. Adoption is not an alternative to abortion.
23. There are zero consequences for men who ejaculate irresponsibly.
24. Sperm are dangerous.
25. Men have more control of their bodies and sexual urges than we like to admit.
26. Men can easily prevent abortions but choose not to.
27. We know what works.
28. This is how to take action.

Gabrielle Stanley Blair is the author of Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way To Think About Abortion. She is also the founder of DesignMom.com. Started in 2006, it has been named a Parenting Website of the Year by Time Magazine, praised as a top parenting blog by The Wall Street Journal, Parents, and Better Homes & Gardens, and won the Iris Award for Blog of the Year. Her first book, Design Mom: How to Live with Kids, a New York Times Bestseller, was published in 2015 by Artisan. Gabrielle is also a founder of Alt Summit, the blockbuster annual conference for online content creators and creative entrepreneurs, currently in its 13th year.

As a thought leader for over 15 years, Gabrielle has written and moderated hundreds of discussions on difficult topics, and interviewed some of the most influential people in the world. Her writing is quoted and shared across the globe daily. Gabrielle and her husband, Ben Blair, have six children — Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty, and Flora June. After six years in Oakland, they moved to a small town in Normandy, France where they are renovating a house from the 1600s. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @designmom.