Born to Win

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Your Parent's Attitudes
How Are You Like Your Parents?
Your Inner Dialogue
Your Parent Ego States
Naikan Therapy (Japanese self-observation method)


6. Childhood And The Child Ego State
The Child Ego State
The Natural Child
The Little Professor
The Adapted Child
Shifts between the Natural and Adapted Child
Activating the Child Ego State
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Your Childhood Home
Getting in Touch with Your Childhood
The Child in You Now
Fantasy Awareness
Your Childhood Adaptations
Loss of a Parent
Your Little Professor
You as a Natural Child


7. Personal And Sexual Identity
Names and Identity
Identity through Play
Childhood Psychological Games and Role Identity
Sexual Identity
Sexual Expression
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Identity and Your Name
Your Childhood Play
Your Current Play
Your Psychological Games
Your Sexual Identity and Expression
Your Sexual Feelings and Behavior Now


8. Stamp Collecting And Game Playing
Psychological Trading Stamps
The Time of Redemption
The Sweatshirt Message
Games Played from the Child Ego State
The "Yes, But" Game
The "Let's You and Him Fight" Game
The "See What You Made Me Do" Game
The "Uproar" Game
The "Courtroom" Game
The "Cops and Robbers" Game
Giving Up Games
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Your Stamp Collection
Integrating Old Feelings
Inadequacy · Helplessness · Perfection · Depression · Fear · Guilt · Anxiety · Anger · Resentment · Other Feelings
Tracing Old Feelings
Your Sweatshirt Messages
Script Check List


9. The Adult Ego State
The Bash Trap Phenomenon
The Adult Ego State
Ego State Boundaries
Lax Ego Boundaries
Rigid Ego Boundaries
Contamination of the Adult
Boundary Lesions
The Adult as Executive of the Personality
Placating Your Parent
Pleasing the Child
Activating and Strengthening the Adult Ego State
Days of Despair
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Deathbed Scene (fantasy)
Your Last Hour (fantasy)
Breaking Out of Your Bash Trap
Examining Constant Parent, Constant Adult, and Constant Child
Your Ego State Portrait
Decontaminating Your Adult
Learning from your Projections
Learning from your Dreams
Problem-Solving Technique


10. Autonomy And Adult Ethics
Awareness
Spontaneity
Intimacy
The Integrated Adult
Adult Feelings
Adult Ethics
Epilogue
Experiments and Exercises
Your Adult Ethics
Adult Questions on Your Life


Footnotes And References


Index